At many times in my life, I have experienced wonderful friendships.
When we're young, we have our friends that we grow up with and attend high school together.
Then we transition to college and make friends during the "growing up" phase.
After college, we head out to the workplace and find co-workers that become friends because you can talk about all things work-related and empathize with how much you dislike your boss or overtime.
I used to be the friend that always reached out to those that I knew at every point in my life.
I thought because I grew up with my high school friends that I needed to continue the friendship forever.
I thought since my college friends were supposed to be the "friends you keep for life" that I needed to continue to reach out.
After I left my work to be a SAHM, I thought it was important to continue the work friendships with those I had worked with for 4-6 years because we spent so much time together.
But in reality, sometimes friendships expire. And it's ok to be sad. It's ok to miss those friendships and to look fondly back at the memories that you created together.
I learned that just because you went to high school with someone doesn't mean you actually have anything in common.
The college friends that were supposed to be for life were only for those years of growth to adulthood.
The co-workers, were just that. Once you leave that work you find you don't have that much to talk about.
I do have strong friendships and best friends from each of these periods of my life. I have a few that I can talk about the good ole days when we were teenagers, college friends that I can talk about the crazy times and our sorority days, and even a few of my co-workers became some of my closest friends.
But I don't beat myself about those that are lost. I don't reach out anymore. I have made my peace with it, and I cherish the times we had. I don't discount the friendship, but I understand it is one that can't move forward.
And if a few of them call me every now and then, I talk to them. I don't hold grudges that we don't talk everyday.
People come into our lives for different reasons, and so I accept it for what it is.
How do you look back on friendships of the past?
Natalie